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Remembering and Celebrating
Bob's Life:
by Caryl Bryer Fallert
How can you summarize a life like Bob's in a few short
sentences? He survived more near death experiences than
anyone I have ever met, and always lived to tell about it.
And his accounts were always colorful, entertaining and
dramatic.
Bob and his twin sister Joan were born November
26, 1939, and grew up in Crystal City Missouri. When Bob was
18 months old he had spinal meningitis. His mother was given
no hope that he would live, and when he decided to live anyway,
the doctors warned that he would never be anything more than
a vegetable. When he became conscious, they said OK, but he
will never walk. Well, Bob had other ideas, and by the time
he was 10, he was able to run and play as well as other children
his age.
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Bob 1969
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Bob with dogs, 1990's
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Bob hunting at MO farm 1970's
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Bob & Duke in Alaska 2003
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Bob & Joan on their 66th Birthday, 2005
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Bob & Caryl Thanksgiving 2005
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Bob on Dutchess 1990's
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While he was a young boy, Bob fondly remembered many quail
hunting trips with his dad, his Uncle Logan, and their English
pointers. These early experiences in the woods colored and
enriched the rest of his life. Bob worked his way through
the University of Missouri and got a degree in Forestry. He
wanted to explore the world, so during a short tour in the
Army he often hitched rides on transport planes to spend a
few days in exotic locations in Africa and Asia.
In 1962, Bob joined the Peace Corp. and went to Brazil for
two years. In Brazil he ran an isolated research station in
the Amazon jungle, miles up a tributary to the Amazon River.
When food didn't arrive at the research station, he and the
100 people he was leading were starving. After all the ammunition
was spent, doing subsistence hunting for food, Bob brewed
gunpowder out of fertilizer, loaded it into a muzzle loader
with chopped up nails, and went out hunting, knowing this
was his last chance for food. In a small clearing in the jungle
he spotted a jaguar that was crouched and ready to have him
for lunch. He shot the muzzle loader as big cat sprang at
him, and the jaguar kept the whole group alive until help
arrived.
I met Bob in 1969, shortly after I started flying for United
Airlines. Bob had recently completed a masters degree at Purdue
University, and he was working for IBM in Chicago. We were
fixed up on a blind date by our mutual friend Peter Kasdin.
On our first date, Bob began telling me about his adventures
in the Amazon, and I knew he was someone really special. A
week later he took me to the Rembrandt exhibit at the Chicago
Art Institute, and the next week to a show at the botanic
garden and began to fall in love with him. Over the next year
I discovered that he had a whole set of hobbies I had never
been exposed to. He bought me boots and outdoor gear, and
took me camping at the old family farm where his cousin Wayne
lived. On Christmas of 1970 he and his Uncle Logan took me
bird hunting for the first time, and I began to understand
his love of nature and the outdoors. Over the next year I
discovered that we both loved to travel and that we could
enjoy our common interests together
. and that
we could both give each other the freedom to enjoy other interests
that we didn't share.
On Christmas of 1971 I surprised Bob with a Brittany puppy
.our
faithful old dog Tina whose line continues today in his beloved
Jill.
After Bob and I were married in 1972 we bought our first
farm near St. Genevieve Missouri, and two years later a different
farm in Owensville Missouri. We fixed up the old homesteaders
cabin on the Missouri farm, and enjoyed many weekends there,
hiking through the woods with the dogs and living like pioneers
in the cabin. Many of these weekends were shared with my nieces
and nephews, and with Bob's lifelong best friend Ken Richmond.
In the evening we would sit down to a dinner cooked on a wood
stove, and by the light of an oil lamp, Bob would regale us
with stories of his many adventures. Bob was a master story
teller, and even after hearing some of his stories fifty times
they still made me laugh. Shortly after buying the farm Bob
bought our first horses, and we enjoyed many long rides through
the woods on Bonnie and Jessie. Bob has never been without
horses since then.
In 1978 we decided to move further out in the country to
accommodate our expanding family of dogs. We bought an 1879
farmhouse in Oswego Illinois and Bob brought the horses home
from Missouri so he could ride as often as he liked. Bob's
menagerie eventually expanded to as many as seven dogs, four
horses, fifteen goats, flocks of ducks and geese, and 150
rabbits. Dr. Doolittle
move over.
Right up to his last day at our Kuttawa farm, Bob went out
every day to talk to his horses and they came running to him
like dogs. He loved to tell me about the big slobbery kisses
that gave him.
At 10pm on September 25, 1995 I got a call from the emergency
room in Hinsdale Illinois telling me that Bob has been in
an accident. When I arrived at the hospital Bob was completely
paralyzed on one side and barely able to complete a sentence.
At one in the morning, in the neural intensive care unit of
the hospital, the doctor explained to me that this was the
worst possible kind of stroke, and that short of a miracle;
Bob would never walk or speak again. Miracles do happen, he
said, but the odds are longer than shorter. I was as scared
as I have ever been in my life. I heard Bob mumble and went
over to his bed to hear what he was trying to say. In his
most irritated voice, Bob said
."well then we'll
just go someplace where they give us better odds". By
the next morning Bob was sitting up in a chair, and after
five days he walked out of the hospital without a cane. Six
weeks later he was able to get back on his horse, and he always
credited his horse-back riding for the miraculous recovery
he made.
Several years later, we met our good friend Michael Giannini,
who loves the horses almost as much as Bob. Michael introduced
Bob to Blazing Prairie Stars, a horse therapy Stable where
children with brain injuries and developmental problems are
given physical therapy on horseback. Bob volunteered at the
stable for several years, and I think one of the things that
gave him the most pride and joy in his whole life was watching
those children make miraculous recoveries from brain injuries,
just as he himself had done twice in his own life.
I know it would please Bob immensely to know that Michael
Gianini will be adopting his two beloved horses.
By 2004, both Bob and I were retired and ready for a new
chapter in our lives. Bob's dream was to live way out in the
country as far from other people as possible, and my dream
was to build a studio where quilters could come to take extended
workshops. Moving to Kentucky made it possible for both of
us to have our lifelong dreams and still spend as much time
together as we did when we were both working. At the farm
in Kuttawa, Bob had everything he dreamed of, forest and wetlands,
croplands and pastures, and plenty of room for the dogs and
horses he loved so much. He was also surrounded by some of
the finest neighbors anyone could have. When we found Bob
on Monday, December 18, they all showed up to lend a hand,
and I am very grateful for all the help they have given to
both Bob and me.
Many of you met Bob recently as his legs were gradually slowing
him down and limiting his abilities. I can't begin to give
you a complete picture of Bob's life in a few short paragraphs,
but I want you to know that he was a man with an amazing zest
for life, who could fill an entire room with his energy and
enthusiasm. It was my privilege to be his life partner for
34 years.
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Bob with deerskin jacket 1990's
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Bob & Caryl 1975
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Cowboy Bob 1990's
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Bob with deer 1970's
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Bob at MO farm 1970's
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Bob with Puppy 1980's
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Bob & Caryl on Dad's Bryer's 103rd birthday
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Bob& Horses at Missouri farm 1970's
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Bob & Caryl 1996
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Brazil 1960's
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Farmer Bob
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Bob giving "pony ride"
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Bob at MO farm 1970's
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Bob & Traveler 2003
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Bob & Caryl's wedding 1972
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Bob in Lisle, 1969
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Bob with fish 1990's
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Bob riding at Kuttawa farm, 2005
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Obituary- Bob Fallert
Robert Anton Fallert III.
Born: Barnes Hospital, St.Louis MO. November 26, 1939 to Jenny
Mayfield Fallert and Robert Anton Fallert II.
Departed: Kuttawa, KY, December 17, 2006, age 67
Preceded in death by his parents and his sister Janet Fallert
Turley
Survived by his wife of 34 years, Caryl Bryer Fallert, and
twin sister, Joan Fallert Turley,
Brother-in-law Wayne Turley, nieces, Beth Turley Gloeckner,
and Tracey Turley Brokaw, and nephew Wayne Turley II.
Bob grew up in Crystal City Missouri and attended Sacred
Heart Grade School and Crystal City High School. He attended
the University of Missouri, graduating with a B.S. in Forestry
in 1961. Following graduation he worked for the Missouri Forestry
department, served in the US Army, and worked as a Peace Corp
Volunteer for 2 years in Brazil. He earned an MBA from Purdue
University in 1967.
After earning his MBA, Bob moved to the Chicago area and worked
as a marketing manager for several computer companies. Eventually
he left the computer business and became a market manager
for a paper company.
Bob married Caryl Bryer in August of 1972. They lived for
6 years in Lisle Illinois and then for 27 years in Oswego,
Illinois before moving to Kuttawa Kentucky in 2005.
Bob retired in 1995. After retirement he volunteered at a
Horse Therapy Stable for brain damaged children. He also enjoyed
spending time in the out of doors with his dogs and horses.
Bob was an avid outdoorsman and diligent manager of the resources
under his care. He owned two 400+ acre farms and his happiest
hours were spent with his hunting friends in the forests of
Missouri and Kentucky.
Bob died instantly of a massive brain hemorage on Sunday,
December 17, 2006.
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| Remembering
Uncle "Bob" by Wayne Turley Jr.
As a young child I was very fortunate to have an uncle like
Uncle Bob. I always thought very highly of him and looked
up to him in many ways. Growing up, Uncle Bob and Aunt Caryl
were the only closely related family members who lived away
from St. Louis. Although that meant infrequent visits, it
did mean that we made the most of our time together. I always
remember thinking Uncle Bob lived very dangerously. He invited
my dad and I to go fishing with him and some friends in Alaska
more than once, but I was always fearful of being eaten by
bears. As I grew older, I began to realize trips like the
Alaska trip weren't about fearing bars, and they weren't about
fishing necessarily. They were about creating memories which
each person on the trip would be able to share with one another
for the rest of their lives. Fortunately, I got to hear many
stories by Uncle Bob from not only Alaska, but also the Army
and Peace Corp all of which I am very grateful. Even though
Uncle Bob is now gone, I'm still learning things Uncle Bob
accomplished, some of the adversity he faced, and things he
learned throughout his life and I look forward to telling
my own children about his adventures one day.
I credit my father as the first person to get me interested
and involved in hunting and the outdoors. His first love was
and still is quail hunting and as luck would have it Uncle
Bob also enjoyed quail hunting very much. When I was young,
dad and I would go out to Owensville, MO and meet Uncle Bob
for quail hunting trips. At that point in my life, I was always
more excited about going to the cabin and climbing up and
down the ladder than actually hunting. I remember countless
days of watching Uncle Bob's Brittany's Heather, Annie, and
eventually Jennifer, work with my dad's own dog Annie. During
my childhood, many quail were killed at the Owensville farm
and my Uncle's involvement in quail hunting helped me become
a safer and more accurate hunter with a shotgun. And I'll
never forget the times Uncle Bob rescued me from being caught
in briar patches as we hunted. As the years passed, Uncle
Bob allowed dad and I to quail hunt on the ground at Owensville
if he wasn't there. If it were cold, we'd always look at the
log stove that Uncle Bob had prepared using newspaper and
kindling for the next time he arrived, but we'd never actually
light a fire. We knew that when it came time for us to prepare
the log stove for Uncle Bob that it wouldn't meet his standards
so we'd always use extra sleeping bags.
When I was about eight years old I embarked on my first turkey
hunting experience in Owensville. I vividly remember sitting
by several trees near Uncle Bob and listening to him try to
lure in a big gobbler. Eventually he lured his gobbler, took
his shot, and eventually I was the one who found the turkey
Uncle Bob killed. Uncle Bob even let me carry the turkey back
to the cabin, which thrilled me. Looking back, Uncle Bob taught
me another valuable lesson. The lesson: I will have to remember
to use the "Would you like to carry the turkey back to
the cabin?" trick when I have a family some day.
About that same time my parents had just bought a blue four-wheeler
which dad started to bring to the farm when we would meet
for hunting trips. At that point in time, Uncle Bob was less
than happy with the machine being there. Uncle Bob would've
preferred seeing us drag deer by hand rather than use any
kind of machine other than a tractor on that farm.
Years later, I had become hooked on deer hunting. Unfortunately,
I was scared of heights at that time in my life so dad and
I always hunted together on the ground. Some of my most treasured
memories of the Owensville farm are sitting side by side with
my dad watching deer feed in fields. Unluckily at that time
I was not ready to kill my first deer.
When I was still in high school Uncle Bob bought a bottle
of "White Lady" wine, which he instructed the hunters
was only to be drank when I killed my first deer. He decided
to build a tree stand, surrounded with cedar tree limbs to
protect me from falling and much lower to the ground than
the other tree stands on the farm. He had scouted the area
and deemed it "perfect" for me to kill my first
deer. He even referred to it as "Wayne's tree stand.
Alas, I had yet to learn the concept of patience when hunting
from a deer stand which caused the "White Lady"
to age.
A job with my dad at a factory cured my fear of heights and
moved me one step closer to being a real deer hunter. Uncle
Bob always gave his advice on which stand for me to take opening
morning, but there was yet another flaw in my hunting skills.
Accuracy. Once again, the "White Lady" aged while
Uncle Bob's desire for me to kill my first deer grew more
intense. As the "White Lady" continued to age, Uncle
Bob was killing deer after deer, year after year. As the years
passed, the blue four-wheeler that was once considered a nuisance
of a machine now had a name. The "blue mule" had
been accepted as Uncle Bob and the rest of the hunters were
becoming older and growing tired of dragging deer sometimes
over a mile by hand.
Finally, in the fall of 1999, the wait was over. I killed
my first deer on opening morning. Unfortunately, after all
the years of waiting, Uncle Bob was not there as he was drawn
for a special hunt in Montana, which was a new adventure for
him to enjoy. Every time I look at the pictures of the hunters
who were at the cabin that year, I've always felt the picture
isn't complete since Uncle Bob spent all those years waiting
and teaching. That evening, the "White Lady" was
finally consumed, and toasts to my first deer, and of course
Uncle Bob were made. I still have the empty "White Lady"
bottle today.
When Uncle Bob decided to sell the farm in Owensville, I
felt I had lost a part of my childhood. Shortly before the
property was sold, I went out to the farm to spend one last
night just so I could look at the pictures, remember the childhood
stories, think of the business advice, and take in the beauty
of the place that I had become so familiar with growing up
over the years. The time I was able to spend with Uncle Bob
on the Owensville farm is priceless to me.
Of course the Owensville property gave way to the future
in which another beautiful piece of land was purchased. Because
of Uncle Bob, I have been fortunate enough to gain more knowledge,
spend more times with beloved friends, and experience outdoor
life on the current farm in Kentucky.
Barely over a month ago, several of us gathered in Kentucky
for almost a week. It was painfully obvious that Uncle Bob's
health had deteriorated significantly over the past year.
Needless to say, he didn't want to acknowledge the fact that
he having a hard time moving around and keeping up with the
rest of us nor did he want any help we offered. Before we
left, each of us spent time with Uncle Bob convincing him
to see a Dr. to revive his body and mind. Uncle Bob started
that process and began investigating the proper channels to
cure his various aches and pains as evidenced by the recent
literature we've found. Perhaps it was only my imagination,
but when I saw Uncle Bob during Thanksgiving, I saw a man
who was improved over the man I had hunted with only a few
weeks before. Unfortunately for us here, the lord had other
plans for Uncle Bob.
Aunt Caryl, who has proved what a remarkably strong person
she is during this sad time, was gracious enough to allow
me one of Uncle Bob's guns. I chose a .54 caliber Hawken muzzleloader
that he hand made several years ago. I chose that gun for
four reasons. First, it is an absolutely beautiful gun in
every way imaginable. Second, I remember seeing more than
a few pictures of deer killed by Uncle Bob with that muzzleloader
and how much that gun enriched the pictures. Third, it is
a gun that I will take enormous pleasure in telling my friends,
family, and hopefully children about when and how it was made
and of course the person who made it. Fourth, and most importantly,
it is a gun that I will always be able to look at and immediately
think of Uncle Bob.
Through the years, Uncle Bob has introduced me to his closest
hunting buddies. These introductions have now allowed me to
call each of the hunting buddies, friends. Uncle Bob wanted
people who enjoyed the outdoors as he did to become friends
and share their stories and knowledge. He knew it made each
outdoorsman a better person from his knowledge. I wish I could
remember the last year Uncle Bob, my dad, Ken, James, Tom,
and Duke all deer hunted together, but I know it's been more
than a few years. If I could wish one thing for a deer hunting
trip next year it would be that Duke, James, Ken, Tom, myself,
and of course my father would be able to all hunt together
and reminisce and share stories about uncle Bob. We could
even write the stories down, just as he did throughout the
years so that when we all left camp, not only would we be
able remember the years hunt anytime we so chose, but we would
all possess more knowledge and could share with others of
the happy, adventurous, loved, challenged, determined, full
life Uncle Bob enjoyed and lived.
Wayne Turley II
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Remembrances
from Dusty Rhodes
May I say coming to Bob's service and the entire experience
has been inspiring and a life changing event. Life hands us
tragic surprises from unexpected sources as well as gifts. Bob
once told me he hated being confined with illness as a child
and when it came "his time" wanted to come to a screeching
stop on his horse and keel over into a hole already dug. I know
he hated the thought of being a burden on anyone. He was fiercely
independent.
Yes, I will miss Bob Fallert. He was like a big old Hickory
tree you could visit every 5 years or so and it would be still
standing the same as the day you last saw it. He never changed
and I loved that about Bob. He loved you, his dogs, his horses,
the out-of doors, and knowing how to do things that will be
lost in future generations like shooting a muzzle loader. I
can honestly say there will never be another like my friend,
Bob Fallert.
Warm Regards,
Dusty |
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